It is said that everyone yearns to be loved,right? What is love, honestly. Is it a mixed emotion that fades away when the infatuation exceeds it's limits? Who sets the standards or definitions of what it is to truly be in love? does love hurt? does it make you cry? or should you be full of cheer everytime you think of the idea? Through my many years, i've grasped that it isn't merely the word it's so much more than that but it starts with you. When i say you; i mean the whole ideology of just loving yourself. Seems simple, huh? it isn't we think loving ourselves is the o' so easy self esteem booster "i look good" in the mirror morning after morning routine, right? no! it's more than that! To love love yourself it means to love all of you, your flaws,your thoughts, your mixed feelings, your emotions, your mistakes, your body, the actual YOU. for if you don't love you for you, who will? i've noticed sometimes we lose ourselves in the concept of being in love that we lose ourselves in the idea of it? if that makes sense. (read it twice....you'll get it, lol.) meaning we will do whatever it takes to just have someone tell us that they love us we will give up on loving ourselves and what we stand for. i don't know if that's just a woman's perspective for i can only speak for myself and experiences. but, i've noticed sometimes women will just do what they feel is necessary to keep up that image of once again the ever so loosely used word LOVE. only to find themselves looking in the mirror baffled, because they don't even recognize the person they've become? is that what love is? that you'd lose yourself just to make it seem as if you possess it? why when we think of the word love we always correlate it with someone else? why can't it be selfish? why can't it be related to the passion you have for something that means greatness, to you?all in all.. REALLY, what is love? who is love? what is it to be in love?
Saturday, November 14, 2009
To be loved?
It is said that everyone yearns to be loved,right? What is love, honestly. Is it a mixed emotion that fades away when the infatuation exceeds it's limits? Who sets the standards or definitions of what it is to truly be in love? does love hurt? does it make you cry? or should you be full of cheer everytime you think of the idea? Through my many years, i've grasped that it isn't merely the word it's so much more than that but it starts with you. When i say you; i mean the whole ideology of just loving yourself. Seems simple, huh? it isn't we think loving ourselves is the o' so easy self esteem booster "i look good" in the mirror morning after morning routine, right? no! it's more than that! To love love yourself it means to love all of you, your flaws,your thoughts, your mixed feelings, your emotions, your mistakes, your body, the actual YOU. for if you don't love you for you, who will? i've noticed sometimes we lose ourselves in the concept of being in love that we lose ourselves in the idea of it? if that makes sense. (read it twice....you'll get it, lol.) meaning we will do whatever it takes to just have someone tell us that they love us we will give up on loving ourselves and what we stand for. i don't know if that's just a woman's perspective for i can only speak for myself and experiences. but, i've noticed sometimes women will just do what they feel is necessary to keep up that image of once again the ever so loosely used word LOVE. only to find themselves looking in the mirror baffled, because they don't even recognize the person they've become? is that what love is? that you'd lose yourself just to make it seem as if you possess it? why when we think of the word love we always correlate it with someone else? why can't it be selfish? why can't it be related to the passion you have for something that means greatness, to you?all in all.. REALLY, what is love? who is love? what is it to be in love?
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i dont fully agree, you cant possibly love someone else without sacrificing certain things for the sake of your relationship. a relationship cant be 100-0 or 80-20 it has to be 50-50 to work. if your man is into sports and your not sometimes you have to pretend to like it or give him his space to enjoy or atleast learn and participate. if your girl likes to go out to plays and operas you have to go sometimes and enjoy. life is all about sacrifice so why wouldnt love be? what type of relationship would it be where your man talks about certain things and his ideals and you cant stimulate his conversation but all you can do is say "no i dont agree" or "no i dont know what your talking about i dont like that" shit is going to go absolutely no where ma'am.
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